Oh, man, this is beautifully said. I feel so much of this in my own gender/sexuality journey. Figuring out how to toe that line without pissing off, in my case, my mother. Finding out I can be true to myself and not make everyone around me 'uncomfortable' was such a huge part of my early 20s (also figuring out that gender is fluid and I wasn't c r a z y for feeling the way I do.)
I spent a long time in my teens thinking I was trans before I even knew what words like trans, bigender, non-binary even were. I just knew I wasnt like all my other female friends and I also knew I didn't quite want to be just like my male friends. Before I knew what panromantic and grey-ace meant. I hate when people say "I don't need labels" or "Mandy, why do you have to have so many labels??" Because I legitimately spent almost a decade hating myself. And I finally have words (which I love!) to explain how I feel and why I feel that way.
Honestly if it weren't for fandom I may never have figured out half of what I know about myself now and would probably be...not here anymore.
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Re: KK: Johnny/Daniel, Drag
Date: 2021-03-25 11:57 am (UTC)I spent a long time in my teens thinking I was trans before I even knew what words like trans, bigender, non-binary even were. I just knew I wasnt like all my other female friends and I also knew I didn't quite want to be just like my male friends. Before I knew what panromantic and grey-ace meant. I hate when people say "I don't need labels" or "Mandy, why do you have to have so many labels??" Because I legitimately spent almost a decade hating myself. And I finally have words (which I love!) to explain how I feel and why I feel that way.
Honestly if it weren't for fandom I may never have figured out half of what I know about myself now and would probably be...not here anymore.